Learning how not to become obese

Learning how not to become obese is important for your current and future health. Here we offer free psychology tools for weight loss.

Quality in, quality out; garbage in, garbage out. So, nourish your mind daily with quality mental "food."

Suppose that you didn't want to bother increasing your understanding in favor of just asking some expert. That might seem like a good idea, but without having expertise yourself, you have no way to know how to select an expert!

Lots of people want to sell you courses. To the degree that if you do not already understand what they are talking about, it's not possible to know whether those courses are a waste of money or not.

The typical results of not increasing your own understanding are that you'll wind up just as heavy with more confusion and less money. Fortunately, ignorance is usually curable. Furthermore, you are the best expert on your own body.

Learning how not to become obese achieves fat loss

There's another important benefit to knowing the best way to lose weight. Once you begin tending (caring for) your body properly, additional knowledge will increase your ability and motivation to do it well. Thinking is the process of asking and answering questions. Better questioning creates better lives.

When it comes to supplying answers, our minds are fertile. It’s as if—not liking unanswered questions—they’ll always supply some answer or other. Ask a question and our minds will come up with an answer.

It's not easy to question well. We've found it useful to find a good role model such as Socrates or The Buddha and never to accept an answer that Socrates or The Buddha wouldn't accept.

They were excellent questioners.

It is important consciously and frequently to ask empowering questions. Furthermore, refuse to accept negative answers to empowering questions.

For example, when something bad happens to you, if you are severely burned or crippled or sick or injured or depressed, if you ask, ‘Why me?’ your mind will supply some answer that will never lead to a positive result.

If, on the other hand, you ask an empowering question such as, 'How can I use this to live better and to show others how to live better?', your mind will also supply an answer, but this answer may enable you to transform your difficulty into a positive force.

sidebar quotation from Albert Einstein: "The important thing is not to stop questioning."

Questions work in three ways to avoid become obesity

First, a question immediately changes our focus and, so, our emotional reactions. For example, 'Why am I so fat?' or ‘Why am I always so unhappy?’ reinforce what is negative.

Whereas, ‘How can I trim down?’ or ‘What can I do to become happier?’ reinforce what is positive.

Our greatest asset is our ability to choose what we focus on

With respect to focusing, we are completely free, and nobody can ever take that away from us. Why not focus on ways of living better? Why not focus on achieving weight loss that lasts?

Second, a question changes what we delete. Suppose that I am angry because I have to struggle mightily to lose body fat. Asking 'Why am I so angry?' will focus my attention on finding justification for my anger, thus reinforcing it and poisoning my own life.

Asking instead 'What can I learn from this situation so that it doesn't repeat itself?' will help delete my anger and focus attention on using the present problem as an opportunity for growth. This always works when backed by "cooking" the emotion.

Use questions to undermine beliefs that lead you to think, speak, and do poorly; use questions to reinforce beliefs that lead you to think, speak, and do well.

Third, a good question improves our attitudes and habits. For example, the questions "Why don't I add lean muscle mass quickly?" or "Why do I so hate eating vegetables?" are disempowering questions that can lead to more disempowering questions that can undermine beneficial attitudes and habits.

Alternatively, we can use questions to dispel doubt, questions such as ‘How did I ever get so lucky as to be able to pump iron twice a week?’ or ‘Do you know how grateful I am that I am able to eat as many vegetables as I want?"

This explains why it isn't easy to question (think) well. Our beliefs affect the questions we ask. Since we get stuck on our own beliefs, it isn’t easy to question them; in fact, it’s so uncomfortable that most people do as little of it as possible.

For philosophers, on the other hand, living an unexamined life isn’t worth the trouble; as Plato noted, “the unexamined life isn’t worth living.” Again, it's your choice.

The truth is that the only alternative to living an examined life is worse.

If one does not examine life, one will not grasp its lessons; anyone who does not learn life’s lessons will suffer their repetition. False beliefs, unkind words, and actions that cause harm are all opportunities to improve.

Without examination, how could we learn from our errors? It takes a long time to learn life’s lessons. As long as you keep examining, please be patient with yourself. Taking on new knowledge should end only when we do.

To keep examining is to keep questioning our own beliefs, speech, and actions. It may not be comfortable, but if we do not deliberately and consistently ask good questions our lives will be worse.

The most effective and efficient way to learning how not to become obese is to let others help you to lose weight.

It's always faster and usually much less painful to learn from the mistakes and successes of others than to learn from our own, isn't it?

Recommended resources for how not to become obese

We have a list of resources that we are happy to share. Our reading recommendations are free, and, with the possible exception of e-books, there's no reason why you cannot borrow the relevant resources from your local library (rather than buying them).

We have read a ton of books on the spiritual, psychological, and physical practices related to achieving lasting weight loss. Some of them were really worth the time, energy, and expense (since we like to purchase books as well as audio and visual programs).

If you would like a list of recommended books divided by category, see our list of the

Best Self-Help-Books.

Please avoid the temptation of incessantly learning how not to become obese without changing your behavior,

Here's a tip that helps to avoid this: develop the daily habit of reading in a relevant book (or listening to or watching a relevant program). Burke Hedges calculates that, if you read for only fifteen minutes daily, you'll read about 120 books in the next decade! If you really want to make progress quickly, read for thirty or sixty minutes daily, but please don't substitute reading for doing what is required.

For our best reading suggestions, look at the intellectual well-being section of our best self-help books page.

Frankly, we believe that improving your percentage of body fat is a relatively unimportant aspect of your life. The books listed there will help you to improve your overall understanding of what is important. One of the best outcomes of improving your percentage of body fat is that doing so enables you to transfer lessons learned to other aspects of life.

Web pages to help you further

To help you further, in this the psychology for weight loss section of our website we have the following pages:

  • 1. Psychology for Weight Loss (main page)
  • 2. Emotional Eating: How to Cure It
  • 3. Meditation for Weight Loss and Tranquility
  • 4. Meditation Techniques
  • 5. Releasing a Psychological Trap
  • 6. How to Build Self-Esteem
  • 7. Overcoming Obstacles to Weight Loss
  • 8. Breathing Exercises
  • 9. Visualization for Weight Loss
  • 10. Behavioral Weight Loss
  • 11. Commitment and Weight Loss
  • 12. Goal Setting for Weight Loss
  • 13. Lear how to lose weight (this page)
  • 14. Positive Attitude and Achievement
  • 15. Stress Making You Fat

You will find the direct links to those pages on our Sitemap/Index.

Here are two of those page links listed below.


Positive Attitude

An important question to ask yourself

Ask yourself this important question: "Do I have a positive attitude or a negative attitude? Do I usually resist change or do I embrace it?"

A positive can change your mental attitude to work or goals! Developing a positive attitude is about learning how to think in increasingly effective ways.

A positive attitude has many beneficial effects beyond just physical well being because it reflects your relationship to everything else. It also reflects your relationship to other people in your life.

Books for how to lose weight & avoid becoming obese

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The books are available at some good bookstores, especially Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk, usually in Kindle and paperback form, sometimes as hardbacks. If you found learning how to not become obese, informative, these books are excellent further reading.



  • Bradford, HOW TO EAT LESS -- EASILY!

  • Bennett & Sinatra's SUGAR SHOCK!

On most pages of our website, we aim to recommend the very best books available according to the topic of each page. We endeavor to make the best suggestions based on experience and our many years of work and research in the fields of health and fitness. We suggest only books that we have read and can wholly commend

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This completes the learning how not to become obese. We do hope you found the information useful and that it will help you on your journey to health.

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